How to Start Swinging with your Partner

Do couples actually swing in real life? Why do couples swing in the first place?

As complex as our anatomical set up and mind, our nature, characteristics, lifestyle and social behaviors are unique phenomena too.

We have an insatiable appetite for at least one thing in life, be it food or intimacy, as examples.
Leaving food on the table, we stray into a familiar territory to take a dig on an act of physical intimacy. Intimacy is a term stretched to every direction and now it’s slanting towards swingers and couples that want to start swinging.

Swinging is a non-monogamous activity of physical intimacy treated much like any other social activity, that can be experienced as a couple. It has a recreational perspective. Swingers indulge in intimate acts with someone other than one’s spouse/primary partner, with the full knowledge and consent of that person.

Swingers have been thriving since the beginning of recorded time. In the era of flower power, swinging was a very “in-thing” and among the most popular “culture”. It has had different social standings through time, of course! The phenomenon of swinging may be seen as part of the revolution of recent decades.

Swinging is like a sport for people who believe physical attraction is part of human nature and should be openly enjoyed by a committed or married couple.

Typically, swinging activities occur when a married or otherwise committed couple engages in carnal activities with another couple, multiple couples, or a single individual.

The most common method is an adult male and female couple, meeting other pairs for lovemaking and physical intimacy, and sometimes ongoing intimate relationships. The activity may occur at a swing party, a couple-to-couple encounter, a liaison, or with a third person in a threesome.

How to start swinging – The different types of swinging couples

During these events, swingers acknowledge lovemaking as a game and participants as team-mates. There are few ground rules, but none etched in stone. The prominent carnal activities, but definitely not limited to, are several to mention, but a few of the most popular ones include:

Exhibitionism

It is the form of pleasure which involves making out with a partner while being watched by at least one other person.

Voyeurism

Watching others doing or performing the big bang. It is acceptable in the group event, but not in private areas.

Soft Swap

It involves kissing and stroking and the basics in blowing a guy or tickling a girl down south, with multiple partners. This can be indulged during the threesome, group romp, or while swapping partners.

Peak Swap

This is to have penetrative physical sex with someone other than one’s partner. The idea is almost the definition of swinging, but not necessarily the same.

Group Game

This term signifies the activities involving multiple players in the same lay-out. It usually defines a group of four or more people interacting physically. The most common is two couples, although it can be any gender of four or more people.

Ménage a Trios

Also known as threesomes, this is one of the most common methods of starting in the swinging lifestyle for beginners. A lot of couples will carry on with threesomes long after they become an integral part in swinging. In this, all three involved people interact with each other in bed.

Extreme Measures

These include things such as spanking, bondage, and water sports. The majority of these are very uncommon at most swingers’ parties unless the hosts have chosen a theme for the night, in which case you will be notified well before the night of the party.

Bi-Factor

People of the same gender interacting with each other sexually. This is much more common between women than men, but it doesn’t mean every woman will indulge in it. Bisexuality between men is extremely rare in the swinging community, and is usually frowned upon if not organized prior, and is usually preferred in a separate area.

Seven Sexiest Types of Sex You Can Ever Have!

There are many different types of sex, but there are a few types that can get you moist in an instant. And they’re the sexiest types of sex you’ve ever indulged in.

It may not be clean, it may be deviant, but whether it’s a fetish or a craving, if you find yourself in a circumstance like this, you can’t help but want to have sex. With anyone!

The different types of sex

Coming up with a list of times to have sex is simple. There’s make up sex, break up sex, break up and make up sex, and a million other reasons to have sex.

But then, there are a few times when you can’t think of anything but sex, and wouldn’t want anything but sex.

And at times like these, you have the sizzling list of the seven sexiest types of sex. If you’ve experienced any of the sexiest types, lucky you! And if you haven’t, well, you’ve still got the time!

If you ever find yourself in any of these seven circumstances, you can’t help but get naughty in your mind and hope for something sexy to happen real soon.

#7 Sexual tension sex

This type of sex is what fantasies are made of. You dream about it, and you want it, but just don’t know how to go about it. You shake hands and you linger. Both of you hug each other and you linger.

You kiss each other’s cheeks while saying goodbye and it’s so close it’s a kiss on the lips each time. You touch each other often, and your hands take a while to move away.

There’s so much sexual tension in the air you could cut it with a knife. And soon, one day, the sexual tension bubble bursts and you have the sexual tension type of sex.

It’s one of the best sex you can ever have. It may not last long, and you may do nothing fancy. But the passion and the sexual attraction you experience right there could burn a hole on the ground.

Many people fantasize about this, but they don’t really do anything more than use a hand. But if you ever take this forward, we assure you. The sex will be explosive!

#6 Talking dirty sex

This is one of the sexy types of sex that starts off with words. Two friends or new lovers start talking, and soon the talking gets dirty. They’re sitting next to each other and it goes like this.

“I wish we were alone…”

“Why?”

“Cause you look so sexy and there’s so many things I wanna do to you…”

“Oh yeah, what do you wanna do?”

“I wanna tear your clothes up and #$^&% …”

“Uh huh… yeah…? Umm… And then…?”

And you know how this goes. Phone sex is good, but talking dirty type of sex when you’re face to face will leave the couch wet. Ever tried this? This type of sex gives you a huge rush of anticipation and sexual urges, and the sex is oh-so-wicked!

#5 Getting drunk with friends sex

This is group sex of another kind. It happens all the time, and it’s hot. Have you ever been to a house party? Of course, you have.

A few rounds of drinks and tequila later, all house parties with guys and girls go the same way. It starts to lean towards sex, no matter what the age. We just can’t help it, bring in a few drinks and a few sexy people, and all anyone wants to talk about is sex. Well, unless, you’re the geeky torchlight holder who love talking about ghosts.

When we’re kids, we play spin the bottle and kiddie truth and dare. When we get older, we play the same games. But it gets sexier and better. The dares are so much more revealing and bold, and the truth is such a turn on.

“Of all the people here other than your partner, who would you have sex with right now?”

Yeah, seriously, we know the next dare after this truth, don’t we? And even if it’s not a bit of truth or dare or spin the bottle, it’s groping time. Couples and singles who want to mingle start groping each other in drunken fervor. And soon, one couple gets bold and starts pushing tee shirts up and pulling pants down. And then you get it, one of the best types of sex that’s worth talking about for years to come.

#4 Sleeping with another couple sex

This is an exciting type of sex that’s starts shy and ends confusing. Have you and your partner ever gone on a vacation with another couple? And when you do that, have you ever shared a room? It can happen when you’ve had one drink too many or stay in one room with the other couple for far too long and it’s easier to spend the night together.

When two couples lie down in the same room, the air starts to fill with sexual adrenalin. No one knows why, but it just happens.

Both couples start to talk about sex and soon, they indulge in a bit of PDA.

And one thing leads to another and before you know it, you’re talking dirty with the other couple and pushing each other to do more.

“Yeah, let me see you two kiss each other…”

“Now it’s your turn to unhook her bra…”

“Let me see you both do the 69…”

Its starts coy and shy, but as the night progresses, the moves get steamy and really arousing. The two couples don’t have to have start swapping. Just making out and having sex in front of another couple that’s having sex is a high that can hardly ever be achieved. Both couples lie in the same bed, and at times, body parts touch and sometimes, more things happen. But if you’re looking for one of the sexier types of sex, there are few things that can beat this.

#3 Masseuse sex

Have you ever had a full body massage in the privacy of your room? There’s a big chance you have. Again, have you had a sexy masseur of the opposite sex moving their hands all over you?

There are two kinds of massages, the clean kind and the other kind. If you’ve ever had a full body massage where you let the masseur’s hands rove almost all over your body, you’d know how sexy it can feel.

There you are, lying completely naked in front of a stranger as that person touches you in places only our partner has touched you. It’s exciting, and as the masseur’s hands linger near your inner thighs, it’s bound to create ripples of pleasure that can give you some warmth on a lonely night.

Now having sex with the masseur is a definite fantasy. But whether it’s with a real masseur or with your partner role playing with you after the masseur’s gone, that depends on whether you’re single or in love.

#2 Taboo sex

If there’s ever a type of sex that makes for some of the best fantasies, it’s taboo sex. It’s deviant, but it’s one of the sexiest types of sexes. What makes taboo sex so sexy is that fact that it’s so taboo. It’s taboo to even voice it out. But we’ve all been there.

Have you been out with your girlfriend or your wife, and met a friend of hers who’s so incredibly sexy you can’t take your eyes off her? Or have you ever spent an evening out with your brother-in-law or with your husband’s best friend when your husband’s away on a business trip? Sometimes, you can’t help but wonder how they look naked or how sexy it would be to sleep with them. And worse, at times you have a couple of drinks and even casual touches start to feel like horny, flirty touches. Ever been there? Having sex with someone you really shouldn’t be having sex with can make you reach for the skies faster than a space rocket on heat.

It’s sexy, taboo and that makes it one of the most desirable and sexually gratifying types of sex anyone can ever have. It’s so good, you’re not even allowed to think it!

#1 Passionate sex

We’ve gone through six of the sexiest types of sex, but we still haven’t introduced true love sex into the picture. Well, romantic couples may frown and wonder why, so we’ve given the sexiest type of sex to loving passionate sex, the type of sex that’s shared between two lovers who are truly in love.

Now quite frankly, bedroom sex between two people who are deeply in love for several years can never really feel as sexy and desirable as a fling thing. You know everything there is under the blanket and you’ve seen it every night for years. But there’s something else that makes this type of sex the sexiest kind.

When you’re truly in love with your partner, the sex is passionate and both of you know what either of you like in bed. The sex is more loving and intimate, and if you indulge in acts like tantric sex, it can be so passionate and orgasm inducing, you could actually burst into tears of passion.

While all the sexy types of sex are fun and a huge turn on, indulging in these every other day can be boring and soon, you may even start to detest it. But on the other hand, the more you indulge in passionate sex with your own lover, the better the sex and the intimacy gets.

Why crying after sex is nothing to be ashamed of - and may in fact be a compliment

Even if you pride yourself on your stiff upper lip above all else, there's probably a situation or stimulus which will elicit a little cry.

There's no shame in it, plus crying can be amazingly cathartic - psychic tears (triggered by an emotional response) do in fact contain a painkiller.

And we can just about cry in response to anything: Films, songs, stories, puppies - even sex .
Yes, someone having a post-coital sob fest in your arms may seem like an ego-bruiser, but it's not necessarily because it was a sub-par experience.

Crying after sex is perfectly natural

Speaking to The Tab , psychosexual therapist Denise Knowles explained why you might sometimes have to pass your bedfellow the tissues.

"For many [they cry] when they have orgasmed [because] when [the sex] comes to an end that sense of closeness, happiness and contentment is over."

However, emotional attachments aside, there is a scientific reason - hormones

Denise, who has 25 years experience in the field of psychosexual therapy explained how the happy, feel-good hormones such as oxytocin and dopamine are released

These post-sex tears fall into a rather bittersweet category which is neither really happy nor sad.
Denise continues, "It's not so much about it being sad tears, it's just about feeling like 'we've been really close and I'm sad that it's over', the concern is 'when am I ever going to be that close to my partner again'?"

Forget the iPhone 7 Apple's new handset could be called iPhone 6 SE

 

Rumours about when the iPhone 7 will launch have been circulating for months. 

However, the latest puts a new twist on the mystery, claiming it won't be called the iPhone 7 at all.

 

Instead, it will be called the iPhone 6SE - leaving the iPhone 7 for next year, when apple is expected to introduce a major overhaul of its iconic handset. 

Evan Blass, today tweeted: 'iPhone 2016 release: week of September 12th'. 

The launch date has been suggested by mobile phone leaker Evan Blass, who has accurately leaked images and details about other phones in the past.

 

Mr Blass followed up his first tweet with a second, which read: 'Just to clarify, this refers to the retail release, not the launch event. To be even more specific, it should happen on Friday, Sept. 16th.'

 

The mobile phone leaker, who is also a Mobile Reporter at Venture Beat, is best known for leaking Android-based smartphone details. 

 

His prediction of the launch date for Apple's newest phone is in line with their previous announcements, such as the iPhone 6, which launched in September 2015.

As well as the launch date, some rumours about specifications have also been circulating. 

 

Earlier this month, the Wall Street Journal reported: 'Instead of 16GB as a starting point for the entry-level iPhone, the new starting point will be 32GB, according to a person familiar with Apple’s iPhone plans.'

 

As well as ditching the 16GB model, rumours suggest that Apple will also be introducing a larger 256GB model.  

  

 

4 Things You Should Never Wear to a Wedding

Ah, summer. A time for beaches and barbecues and…a bevy of wedding invites. You’ve likely got a stacked schedule, so plan your outfits accordingly. Namely, avoid these five cardinal wedding-outfit sins.

1. a white dress

You know there’s always that one woman who shows up in ivory--and drives the bride to an early grave. At the very least, keep your fabrics in the taupe or blush territory, and save that white lace number for a graduation or garden party.

2. A pair of brand-new stilettos

We know, it’s your one chance to get really dressed up. But remember: You will be walking from table to table and you will be dancing till midnight. If you haven't adequately broken in those heels yet, you're asking for trouble. Either make sure to wear them in beforehand or choose a more sensible pair from the start.
 

3. Anything too revealing

Even if you think something looks good straight-on in front of the mirror, make sure to do a chair (and stairs) check. Weddings are a time of support--not a time for other guests to gossip about your Spanx line.

4. Anything outside the dress code

You may have the fiercest little cocktail frock you're dying to debut, but the dress code may be black-tie optional. And in that instance, you're better off in a long gown (so you don't have any chance of feeling underdressed).

 

How To Prepare Your Relationship for Renovations

Renovations may look like a great idea when they are in the draft stage, with all those clean lines and modern spaces, but it's the relationship collateral around it that you have to consider.
Home renovations cause major stress on relationships, so I spoke to relationship expert and sexologist, Dr Nikki Goldstein, to give us some pointers on how to rebuild your love, and your home, simultaneously.
Dr Nikki flagged hurdles you need to be mindful of in the hope of avoiding, or being more prepared to deal with them when they arise. Similarly, she offered five tips to help you get through the renovation without any major emotional casualities!

5 Hurdles You May Face: 

1. Finances: This is perhaps the major cause of stress throughout the time of a renovation, Dr Nikki says. “Renovating can put a couple under financial stress, especially if you have a budget or have gone over budget.”
2. Conflict: "Renovations are a time when conflict skills need to be in place and communication is paramount," Dr Nikki advises. “It's only natural that you might hit heads with things, but it's how you solve issues and compromise that will help you to the other side and also for your future relationships. If you can negotiate a difference in paint colour then hopefully you can transfer those skills to other areas of your relationship.”
3. Stress: Renovating can be a stressful time, and you might often take that stress out on the person closest to you - your partner. “If you find you are arguing a lot more, you might need to stop and consider [why],” Dr. Nikki suggests. “Are you arguing about real issues or are you just taking out stress and frustration on each other?”
4. Doubt: Renovating together might highlight the differences you have, and cause you to question your compatibility, Dr. Nikki points out. “If you feel like you are always at other ends of the scale on decisions this might make you doubt how compatible you are in general.”
5. Future: If you are in a relatively new relationship, renovating together might bring up some interesting issues for the future, Dr. Nikki notes. “Is this a place you will always have together? Are you planning on making space for a family?  If you have not discussed these things but one person mentions a room potentially being the babies room it could bring up conversation or issues about the future." You may want to be prepared!  

How To Prepare Your Relationship for Renovations

Agree on a Goal: Ask yourself these questions: What is the budget - idealistically and realistically - of the renovation? Why are you doing it? What rooms are a priority and will it be enough space for the long term? Answering these will help ensure you and your partner are on the same page, Dr. Nikki notes.
Delegate Tasks: “Instead of both working on the same thing and potentially either having a difference of opinions or working too closely, it might be good to choose things that you can do separately to meet your end goal,” Dr. Nikki suggests. “Also, consider when doing this each other's strengths, weaknesses, and enjoyments.” Trust is a key ingredient here.
Plan Stalemates:  Before you hit any hurdles (remember all those points above?), discuss how you will deal with them, advises Dr. Nikki. "It might be good to discuss these ahead of time, so there are no surprises."
Be In A Good Place: Not only geographically, but as a couple! “Putting your relationships under the stress of renovations when you are already in a bad place can have more of a negative impact and go against you,” Dr. Nikki cautions. “Are you getting upset because you can't agree on the tiles for the bathroom or because you feel your partner never listens to what you want?”
Have Fun: “Renovating can be a great bonding time and should be seen as an activity you can do together not a burden,” Dr. Nikki advises. Keep the mood light and keep perspective on these often troublesome home ventures!

5 Effective Ways To Train Your Creative Mind

Ever felt yourself on the brink of an amazing idea, but suddenly, your creativity seemed to grind to a halt? If you’ve experienced this annoyance before, you’re probably keen to learn how to get the creative juices flowing again.

In this day and age, creativity is as important as it’s ever been. Even in the business world, the greatest success is achieved through innovation, for which we must have creativity!

If you’ve ever felt let down by your current level of creativity, it’s time to work on improving it. You may be surprised to realize that intelligence only plays a modest role in creative genius.

It’s actually far more complex than we first imagined. In fact, creativity is complexity in itself. There are no quick or easy fixes, however, you can gradually boost your creativity with these 6 simple mind shifts.

1. Believe Creativity Can Be Grown

While this may seem obvious, it’s essential for you to harness all your willpower from the start. The mere act of belief is one of the most powerful motivators.

You must throw away the concept that creativity is an inborn gift. It’s true we naturally develop a certain level of creativity, but then it’s up to you to encourage and allow its growth.

Align your belief now and you will commit yourself to becoming more creative.

2. Choose Lateral Over Vertical Learning

Broadly speaking, there are two different ways we acquire knowledge. Vertical learning is specialization in a particular knowledge field, whereas lateral learning gives us a grasp on a variety of different knowledge fields.

Naturally, you’ll find yourself gravitating towards one or the other. If you’re typically a logical thinker, you’ll often lean towards vertical. However, making an effort to focus on lateral learning will fuel your creativity greatly. Having a wide variety of knowledge in different fields will give your creative side more resources to flow through.

3. Train Your Creativity as You Would a Muscle

Steve Jobs was without a doubt a creative inspiration to all of us. During his time, he shared a wealth of creative wisdom, including this quote:

“You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future.” – Steve Jobs

However, it’s worth knowing that Jobs already had some mighty creative muscles in place. Without them, it’s difficult for us to achieve the same.
Fortunately, we can train the creative functions of the brain much like we train our muscles in the gym. By providing regular stimulation and pushing ourselves, growth can be triggered.
Practice stretching your creativity using methods such as brainstorming or writing as many ideas as you can on paper. As you become more creative, you’ll notice ideas flowing more easily.

4. Dedicate Time to Creativity

If you’re serious about becoming more creative, you’ll need to dedicate time to it. Save at least one free hour per day solely for your own creativity. Allow your mind to wander without daily activities and duties interfering.

Don’t see this as unproductive time, see it as essential playtime for your creative side. When you grant your mind this freedom, you’ll be amazed at what you can come up with!

5. Keep a Thought Journal

Have you ever experienced a spark of creative genius, only to have it fade away before you can act upon it? This is actually quite common, even for the greatest creative thinkers of our time.
Creativity is introspective and sensitive to our feelings. Ideas can come and go as fleetingly as our emotions. Inspiration can strike at any moment and be gone in the next.
Creative geniuses often keep thought journals for jotting down these thoughts as they go about their day. Start capturing your fleeting thoughts on paper, then you can revisit them later for deeper reflection.